Creating Sparks That Last & All Things Relationships

But how? Image: Elora Canne Self-awareness, for one. And effort for another. Neither romance nor love are going to land in your lap if you just sit back staring into space. Unless you’re gazing at the stars with the love of your life cuddled up next to you - but you have to make that happen, right? Let’s start with self-awareness: If you don’t know what you want, you can’t make it happen - go figure. Figure out what kind of relationship makes you happy, then set your intentions to plan for it.  For example: do you want more travel and adventure,  or romance and fine dining?  perhaps you’d prefer more quiet date-nights-in, or snuggled up for more movie nights? Whatever it is that you want more of, you have to,  a) know, and,  b) make it happen. So that’s your project for this month, to figure out what you want more of in your relationship. Perhaps you want a combination of all 3 of my suggestions above. Or, perhaps you can add ideas of your own. _________________________________________

Spending In   Instead of spending out on a date event, we ranked ourselves important enough to pursue projects we both wanted to accomplish in our home. Investing in ourselves should always be a priority. So often we pretty-up areas in our home that are highly visible instead of improving unused areas. It seems a waste and yet it is not. It's the same with our relationships - you create value in spaces otherwise wasted by spending time on each others' needs, making them visible and valuing their role in our commitment to each other. Our 'Spending In' date doubled as fulfilling each others' desire for empty spaces to be filled by finding solutions that work rather than throwing out something (or someone) just because it's (they are) outdated. By transforming ourselves into practical functionality we rediscover purpose and intention, giving ourselves a new lease on life. Approval (ie we need only accept each others' differences) is not necessarily required, o