How Do You Love Someone FOREVER?

How do You Stay Married Until “Death do you part”?



Note: Today's post is an extract from @mrshillaryvance via Instagram. She is a Therapist, Coach & Educator.

With her permission, I have paraphrased some poignant thoughts about long-term relationship commitment:

So many people don’t really weigh the gravity of the FOREVER part or consider what it really means (or actually looks like) to love someone forever.

A lot less people would probably get married if they did!

But in all seriousness, marriage is pretty awesome and it’s totally worth it with the right person (but potentially disastrous with the wrong person). 

I think it’s time more people weigh the seriousness of forever and start talking about the glossed over realities of what most marriages look like day in and day out (it’s definitely not always G-L-A-M-O-R-O-U-S).

All this to say, marriages will have their ups and downs...the good days and bad days, the “I think you’re hot” and “I think you’re not,” days, but what really matters, is the commitment you made to each other and the work you promised to put into it.

The truth is, if you work at FOREVER intentionally (one day at a time), you might just wake up and realize that forever isn’t long enough!





Elora is a relationship writer with tips that empower you to build greater relationship success.

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