Embrace Uniqueness

The Way to a Man’s Heart


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Armed with a glass of velvety smooth Merlot and James with an ice cold beer we joined the hustle of talking, laughing guests standing around bar tables with our behinds perched on wire barstools. While it was fun to blend in with the loud and raucous customers around us, James and I longed for a space to sit comfortably where we could talk to each other instead of shouting at each other, albeit kindly.

“Should we find somewhere else to have dinner?” James yelled at me.

“Sure,” I screamed back into his ear.

So much fun.

Leaving the warmth of those cozy blankets behind, James and I headed for a restaurant with a water view on Darling Harbour. One of our favourites is Bungalow 8 and to our delight, they had revamped their eatery into private booth spaces. 

Ours was particularly intimate with a sign that implored, “Please, no sledding.”

Let me emphasize that the courtyard in question was no more than a two metre square paved patio. No privacy for ‘sledding,’ if that’s what they called it these days. We did get to enjoy quiet conversation without having to screech at each other to properly exchange banter.

Our thoughts were our own and reflected our sanguine comfort in each others’ presence. Sighing contentedly, James and I relaxed into each other taking in the beauty around us, thankful that, after 30 years of marriage we were still able to sigh with so much contentment and enjoy the quiet company of each other. So although we had started our date wanting it be unique, we were truly happy with just comfortable us.

What is your idea of a romantic night out?



Location: Sydney NSW 2000, Australia
Elora is a relationship writer with tips that empower you to build greater relationship success.

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