A Good Relationship Isn't Something You Find

 A Good Relationship Is Something You Make

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Setting goals as a couple helps unify your focus. It connects your purpose for your relationship and ensures that you are both invested in its longevity.

Working towards the longevity of your relationship can take effort, but setting goals together is one of the easiest ways to do it. Because you're both invested in the same outcome of that particular goal, it gives your relationship direction and purpose.

As quoted from Revive Your Midlife Marriage - Midlife Marriage Strategist on Instagram:

A good marriage isn't something you find. It's something you make, and you have to keep on making it every single day.

She goes on to ask: 'Are you accepting things that could really be different if you put a little time, energy, and intention into it?'

Marriage can feel overwhelming and make you feel like you don't have the energy to work on it, so we ignore what's happening and try to fill up the empty spaces with other things.

It doesn't have to be so hard. We've suggested simple ideas below to get you started:

💛 Start with one goal and work on it. Just one.

💛 Everyday choose to do one thing that can improve your marriage. Just one.

💛 Ask for what you need.

💛 Listen intently to your spouse.

💛 Ask powerful questions. "What makes you feel that way?"

💛 Share words of affirmation.

💛 Do Something nice for your spouse for no reason.

💛 Plan meaningful time together.

💛 Encourage and be fully present in each moment.

💛 Forgive. No one is perfect.

💛 Touch more.

💛 Don't compare your marriage to other marriages.

💛 Don't settle for mediocrity.

💛 Add your own inspiration here. And share it with us in the comments so we can inspire others too.

~ If you want to know more about how to improve your marriage, Revive Your Midlife Marriage also has a podcast of the same name. Find it here:

Revive Your Midlife Marriage



Location: Sydney NSW, Australia
Elora is a relationship writer with tips that empower you to build greater relationship success.

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  1. dennyJune 8, 2021 at 1:34 AM

    The best way to make a stronger relationship or if your partner left you but you already love him, is to follow some professional lessons from people who are expert in marriage and relationship relationship.
    I followed this program. If it can be interesting for you i leave the link to it ( just for information to you). It's just introduction video for your information but for me was very helpful.
    https://bit.ly/3gaJcU6
    Have a good and long relationship to everyone :)
    Denny

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