Your Tone Matters

 Treat others like you want to be treated




https://unsplash.com/@isthatbrock


As I have traversed through this maze of uncertainty, blindly forging my way ahead without being able to see the way forward, I found many forms of growth and awakening processes along the way.           

En Route: The best is yet to be by Elora Canne


As I have matured and supposedly wizened up and been open to the teachings of the universe, it has dawned on me that maxims such as ‘treat others like you want to be treated’ cannot be directly translated, just like many foreign languages cannot be directly translated. 

🙊

  • Treat others like you want to be treated actually works by default. For example, although in my mid-adult years I have focused on being very literal and positive with my words (mostly) when speaking with other people, this certainly does not always come back to me directly, but in a roundabout way instead.
🙉
  • Say what you mean and mean what you say – with love. This has been my motto for many years but it has taken me 50 odd years of orbiting the sun, to establish that when I am being my authentic self I am reflecting that back to another person – their response to me is their authenticity – and they do not always match up.
🙈

  • It’s not an ‘instant fix. My sensitivity and willingness to talk kindly, slowly brings about an awareness in others (mostly) as they too realize that treating others like they would like to be treated has cause-and-effect ramifications. 
If their response is agitated, emotional or animated, it affects the mutual outcome. And so, really,         treating others as you want to be treated actually does work, not only in conversations but in our actions too. It just took a lot longer for me to understand that the process has to ‘fit’ the other person’s psyche in order to create shared reciprocity. 



Perhaps you're wondering how this relates directly to relationships?

Do you feel ignored, unheard, not listened to?

Deep conversation is my number 1 top tip:

➤ If you want your partners attention, make it known: use their name; choose a quiet moment.

➤ Find a neutral space, whether outdoors, in a cafe or your backyard away from household distractions.

➤ Make eye contact. 

Now you're ready for a conversation where you'll be heard, acknowledged and listened to.


https://unsplash.com/@solomac


Let's connect on the socials and carry on the conversation!



And if you'd like to join my Launch Team Enthusiasts for my memoir release in February 2022, contact me through the form in the menu bar above. I have a free gift for all Launch Team Enthusiasts!








Location: Sydney NSW, Australia
Elora is a relationship writer with tips that empower you to build greater relationship success.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

The Kind of Life You Want

Image
Redefining Love and Marriage https://unsplash.com/@jennymarvin Committing to a life-long marriage through difficult times takes a lot of courage. I had to define for myself the kind of life I wanted. Was I willing to forgo some of my identity to take on the characteristics of a partner who, just 30 years ago, was a complete stranger to me? Had I really got to know him at all? In this life that we share, how deeply had we truly got to know each other? Not so deeply at all, I was to learn. In spite of the many epiphanies through our year-long travel escapade, what we did on a daily basis in the humdrum of a nine to five lifestyle eroded the  lessons learnt and the coping mechanisms we had adopted. Outwardly we have a wonderfully marvelous life, yet our invisible introspection, unseen by those around us, slowly dims the light in both of our eyes. Old habits took over as we forgot to create special moments together. Our lives became mechanical. Learning to redefine the meaning of love
Read more

Date Night Arguments and How to Prevent Them

Image
Date Night Arguments and How to Prevent Them It’s Date Night. Finally! The stars have aligned with your schedules, the sitter, the kids’ activities.  You can finally spend some quality time with your spouse away from the house. https://unsplash.com/@claybanks It’s been ages since you spent any "alone time" together.  You've missed your partner.  In fact, you have longed for uninterrupted time when you can connect and feel close.  Time when there is time and space to feel like you did at the beginning of the relationship. Time together is what inspired the other parts of your joint life.  You know that you need relaxed and enjoyable time together or you will lose the spark.  You already feel too much like ships passing in the night.  You need to break free from feeling like roommates. You’ve been imagining the date all week.  You’ve pictured having fun, connecting, and being affectionate.  You are looking forward to being able to relax and focus on one another. It’s what y
Read more

Never Give Up

Image
There's Always a Solution I said this to a friend the other day who was struggling with tech stuff. She was so grateful for the boost that  she persevered for an entire week , but she did it!  So let’s just expand on the notion here, that ' there's always a solution.' Elora Canne - Memoir Writer I'm delighted to share my conversation with you, from the Living Big Mindfully podcast where host, Kate Champion, and I discussed many later-in-life relationship topics.  But I'm particularly interested in sharing with you, the notion that there is indeed always a solution .  Not only in everyday life situations, as told above, but also in those deeper, more difficult to navigate situations as you'll discover on the podcast. There is always a way around a hurdle,  even if you can't jump over it. To listen in on our conversation, insights and solutions, tap this link:  Living Big Mindfully Podcast Book News: 🫂 Allow me to focus, just for a minute, on those solut
Read more