Creating Sparks That Last & All Things Relationships

Books, Food, Activities, Thoughts, Sightings, Conversations In other words, life. It is said that we 'are what we eat,' and it is also said that, 'our thoughts become things.' But have you heard, or felt , the notion that our bodies imbibe what we read, see and hear?  It's certainly true for me, and as announced last month, I will be talking about books that have had a profound effect on me, here on the blog for the foreseeable future.  Books really do embody the 'read, see, hear' criteria of our lives so we need to be mindful of what literature we consume. The three I want to mention today were heavy reads for me and deeply affecting. Perhaps it makes a difference too, if there is a connection, however indiscernible, between reader and author. Whilst I know none of the following authors personally, I do feel some sort of connection with each. At an author talk I attended, the interviewee spoke volumes to me about her knowledge of our local area. Unintention...

Or could you have both? Elora Canne Blogger I mentioned that I’d be discussing relationship books here on the blog, for the foreseeable future. I feel it gives a broader perspective of relationships than just me.  Today’s post isn’t technically a book discussion, although it is called the Book Club and it’s based very loosely on Paulo Coelho’s The Alchemist , so it counts in my book ;) In the movie Book Club: The Next Chapter , four female friends find out just how far they will go for both love and friendship. I’m always interested in different views of midlife relationships and these four friends provide exactly that; later-in-life women at a crossroads in their love life. Incidentally, in our last blog post I said I’d let you know which term best suits midlife love and the winner was Later-in-Life Love. Our four female friends and their love conundrums are as follows: Vivian finds herself engaged to long-time lover Arthur, and her friends surprise her with their wedding all se...

There's Always a Solution I said this to a friend the other day who was struggling with tech stuff. She was so grateful for the boost that  she persevered for an entire week , but she did it!  So let’s just expand on the notion here, that ' there's always a solution.' Elora Canne - Memoir Writer I'm delighted to share my conversation with you, from the Living Big Mindfully podcast where host, Kate Champion, and I discussed many later-in-life relationship topics.  But I'm particularly interested in sharing with you, the notion that there is indeed always a solution .  Not only in everyday life situations, as told above, but also in those deeper, more difficult to navigate situations as you'll discover on the podcast. There is always a way around a hurdle,  even if you can't jump over it. To listen in on our conversation, insights and solutions, tap this link:  Living Big Mindfully Podcast Book News: 🫂 Allow me to focus, just for a minute, on those solut...

And New Releases from Well-Loved Authors This month I want to share with you, the delights I have discovered from new, and new-to-me, authors. Welcome to July's Bookish Edition of Creating Sparks that Last Elora Canne Up and Coming Authors: So much has happened in the book world this month, I have much to share:  ARC reads  Beta reads  Book endorsements Online interviews  Podcast interviews  In-person, Aussie author, book launch events Bookish start-up event launching this month   To say I am pumped would be an understatement! Right! Onto the Big Reveal: Author’s Showcase Mitos Ming Suson , author of several emotive memoirs herself, approached me for an author feature on her blog, after reading my memoir, En Route . It was such a thrill! Her fun and informative interview reveals all the juicy bits  which you can read about, here:  Author's Showcase   - click through to 'Read full interview here.' If you'd like the chance for an Author's Show...

How to Achieve Relationship Success? Image: Elora Canne Quality interactions - short term Combined dreams - long term Quality Interactions: For any relationship to be successful, you have to experience quality interactions that will draw you closer together and create lasting memories that you share. Last month we spoke about what we want more of in a relationship. Here’s the link if you missed it:  create-relationship-you-want The thing is, your partner also has their own desires for your relationship together. Here’s where the ‘how-to’ of a successful relationship comes in: A) Both partners write a list of 5 achievable date ideas for your relationship that will drive it to success. B) Swap lists and write a short list of your partners choices that you’d like to pursue. C) From each of your short lists, pick a starting point. Don’t over complicate things. Baby steps towards your relationship success will ensure sustainable practice in the long-run. Combined Dreams: Now that you bo...

But how? Image: Elora Canne Self-awareness, for one. And effort for another. Neither romance nor love are going to land in your lap if you just sit back staring into space. Unless you’re gazing at the stars with the love of your life cuddled up next to you - but you have to make that happen, right? Let’s start with self-awareness: If you don’t know what you want, you can’t make it happen - go figure. Figure out what kind of relationship makes you happy, then set your intentions to plan for it.  For example: do you want more travel and adventure,  or romance and fine dining?  perhaps you’d prefer more quiet date-nights-in, or snuggled up for more movie nights? Whatever it is that you want more of, you have to,  a) know, and,  b) make it happen. So that’s your project for this month, to figure out what you want more of in your relationship. Perhaps you want a combination of all 3 of my suggestions above. Or, perhaps you can add ideas of your own. _________________...

And Healthy Relationship Tips If you’re wondering what the secret to lasting love is, there isn’t one. You have to take the long way round. And the good news is, I’ve got 3 tips that will get you there. How do I know? Because this year marks the 40th year my partner and I will have been together. Not married, that’ll be 37 years, but together - not yet mind you, that’ll be later on in the year. Our relationship comes with lots of experience, so healthy relationship tips are kind of my fortè. Here are my 3 tips for you: • Regular dates inject new interest into your relationship. They don’t have to be expensive outings, in fact they don’t even have to be outings, but they do have to be something out of the ordinary. • My second healthy relationship tip is to have the awkward conversation. Repeatedly, until the issue is fully resolved. This may take months, intermittently and you will continue to have issues needing discussion, just keep at it. Preferably on neutral ground during a walk o...