Creating Sparks That Last & All Things Relationships

If Not Now, Then When? When will you honour your deepest desires? When will you put your dream life ahead of someone else’s? I’ll tell you when: TODAY! Today is the day you get to live the life of your dreams! If you’re unsure how to go about it, I have just the thing for you. Go live the life of your dreams. Bolder and braver than you ever imagined possible. EN ROUTE is full of inspiration and encouragement to get you started.  The best is yet to be, so go now and find the way forwards: EN ROUTE: The best is yet to be  

Communication? Sometimes Non-Communication? On this particular date, James and I were grumpy with each other. We were away on holiday together in Bath, UK and started our day by parting ways for individual sightseeing. Neither of us felt like talking to the other and that is a huge sign of respecting each others' boundaries. If feelings are too heated, it often pays to walk away temporarily, before hurtful things are said and tempers flare beyond control. By the time we met up again, later in the day, our feelings had diluted with retrospection and deep thought - so vital in understanding ourselves and others in an attempt to be respectful and not lose our temper. The following is an excerpt from my travel journal: Our melancholy overflowed into our tiny dorm room at the YMCA. We very seriously considered cancelling the rest of our trip, and we were only 3 months in! After a thoroughly heated discussion about the pros and cons of packing up and going home, we acknowledged that thi...

  Invest in your relationship to deepen its worth Here we are, mid-way through our date year experiment and this one ended up being away from home  in the Philippines, so it made sense to incorporate date night into our holiday.  James and I had only arrived in the Philippines a couple of hours before; we had left Sydney in the early morning in the middle of winter knowing full well that we were arriving to high humidity. I was dressed in a spencer, long sleeved polo neck, scarf and jacket. While waiting for our luggage I took off my scarf and jacket but couldn’t remove my long sleeved polo neck because I only had a spencer underneath – James looked at me, sweat pouring from my beet red face and said as if surprised, “Aren’t you hot?” What ensued I cannot be sure except for the fact that I answered him in a flurry of colourful words from which he calmly turned to collect our luggage. Aren’t I hot? Of course I’m hot, I’m boiling, what did he think I would be feeling? There...

Goddess Frump I Have Silver Streaks in my Hair – Deal With It We'll take a Festive break here to celebrate ourselves. Have fun with this article I penned about frumps. 54 Years ago I had no hair, no teeth, couldn’t speak and I cried a lot. People loved me. Today, I have hair, I can speak and I cry only a little. People still love me. My hair has silver streaks in it – and those same people still love me. My teeth are crooked and tinged with a faint acknowledgement of a coffee addiction – still, people love me. My point is, I am a frump and I freaking love being a frump. I will not try to be anything else and people will still love me – for me. For who I really am. For my wrinkles and the silver streaks in my hair. The only expectations I have are self-respect. So long as I maintain my own standards of integrity I am brazenly me. Goddess Frump. That is who I am. It has taken me a long time to get there, 19 615 days give or take. I have spent approximately 28 245 600 minutes ...

 What do your relationships look like? 💗 Romantic? 🎉 Exciting? 🌺 Spoilt? 👣 Grounded? Essentially we want our relationships to be all of the above and more. Evolving, growing, openly sharing our thoughts and dreams. If we are to make a long term commitment with the person we have chosen for life, we need to be able to evolve with the ever-changing environment of growth in our relationship; to be able to adapt and strengthen our bonds. ~ For an in-depth look into ways to grow with the changing landscape of love in your life, you can subscribe to receive a free ebook of my tried and tested strategies to improve my 35 year marriage remarkably.