Bring Your Marriage Back from the Brink

Dormant Feelings Can Be Re-Ignited


You can also find new ways to feel by learning more about each other.

To recap on last weeks’ post about honest and open vulnerability and making a commitment to the happiness of your relationship, I’ve got a few pointers below to steer the process in the right direction. 

To learn a little more about your mate it’ll help to understand some of these ideas:

Unique        🔸 What are your interests, individually and as a couple?

Connect    🔸Physically and emotionally with eye contact

Consistent    🔸 Commit ahead of time to a time frame that suits both your calendars for date events

Vulnerability ðŸ”¸ Be prepared to talk of sensitive issues without fear of betrayal

Laughter    🔸It really is the best medicine; choose outings that tickle your funny bone


I am not a marriage counsellor, I’m not even a relationship guide; what I am, is a wife. I have been a wife to the same man for 33 years. I won’t say always happily because that would be a false representation of reality. Marriage is not pretty. It’s not meant to be. What it is meant to be is a commitment to putting in the effort to pretty-up the not-so-pretty gaps.

As two strangers from different backgrounds, uniting as one, you are expected to have differing values, opinions and points of view. The secret to remember is that there are many perspectives with many differing points of view and they are all valid – they all have a role to play in developing your relationship to greater heights.

Image credit to Allan Dias via Unsplash

If you or anyone you know is struggling to re-connect to the beauty of their marriage or relationship, please seek professional guidance before you throw in the towel. There is so much affection and renewed compassion and understanding to discover with new facets to your partner you never knew existed. How could you have known, if you have not allowed your relationship to grow in its new identity and expand its boundaries?

You can bring your marriage back from stagnating on the brink of the Stone Age so long as you commit to adapting to the Modern Age of your evolved marital landscape. 

Excerpt from Creating Sparks That Last by Elora Canne. You can find it at the link here


Location: Sydney NSW, Australia
Elora is a relationship writer with tips that empower you to build greater relationship success.

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