Keep Your Connection Alive


NO SPARK STAYS ALIGHT WITHOUT EFFORT


Our Date Event for the year proved to be thoroughly worthwhile. James and I had bonded over new experiences and quality time alone, but that by no means meant we could sit back and watch our marriage continue to flourish all on its own.

Just as there is no perfect person out there, yes I’m talking to you, there is also no perfect relationship or marriage out there. If you consider for a moment, that essentially you are two strangers from different backgrounds with your own opinions, cultures and personality, so you are bound to disagree on some topics, which is to be expected. And if you’re not disagreeing some of the time, I would venture to say that one of you is sacrificing too much of yourself or possibly even being unnecessarily passive. 

We should be playing to each others’ strengths not highlighting weaknesses, but building them up as best we know how.


Relationships require fine-tuning all the time




Every day we are faced with situations that conjure up anger or irritation but the trick is to find ways to diffuse that wick – I’m not saying deny your anger, simply soften it to be less intense. Whether it be with an extra long hug, or agreeing to a little emotional ‘space’ or possibly even distracting yourselves with a walk or music or whatever it is that brings on your happy face. Then, when you’re in neutral territory/mental space, you can agree to have a mature discussion about your differences. This doesn’t always guarantee that one or the other will agree with each other, but it is okay to accept differences. In fact that is the cornerstone of all successful relationships –

Love the faults you fell in love with.


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