Meh to Amazing!

Sparks That Last Forever

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It seems improbable that a relationship can maintain it's passion through decades of wear and tear from life's ups and downs. But I'm here to tell you that it is possible.

Not easy.

But possible.

It's not the same passion as newly falling in love, as we've discussed before, but I can testify that it is even better than that dizzy feeling of heading into a relationship with uncertainty for the future. Because by now, I'm in the future of my relationship. 

Three and a half decades later of being with the same partner has brought some sobering perspectives to our outlook. The comfort of knowing each other relatively well; knowing that your are loved; knowing how to love in return - these are the joys of longevity in a relationship.

Further reading suggestion

It Just Keeps Getting Better

It’s important to remember that nothing stays the same. Not even when you've been together seemingly forever. 

  • We still have to work on maintaining respectful companionship for each other as we, ourselves, evolve with time.
  • We have to remember to nurture our compassion for each other as we navigate our emotions through the trials of life and subsequent health hurdles. 
  • And compromise is never far from any successful relationship, weathering the storms of different opinions and desires, is ongoing.

Take your relationship from meh to amazing with this short manifesto-style ebook about our game-changing date year. In it, you will read how my husband and I have upheld our respect for each other through three+ decades together.

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Elora is a relationship writer with tips that empower you to build greater relationship success.

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