Redefining Love and Marriage

Redefining Boundaries

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Committing to a life-long marriage through difficult times takes a lot of courage. Each partner has to redefine for themselves the kind of life they want to lead within the walls of a partnership.

Will you be willing to forgo some of your identity to take on the characteristics of a partner, who, just a few years ago was a complete stranger? How well do you know each other? In this life that you share, how deeply have you truly got to know each other?

What you do on a daily basis in the humdrum of a nine to five lifestyle erodes the learnings and coping mechanisms adopted from your years of younger love. Invisible introspection can dim the light in your eyes if you let it.

Old habits take over 
if you forget to create 
special moments together


Learning to redefine the meaning of love means learning to redefine boundaries that no longer have any meaning. Boundaries that were significant at the beginning of your relationship as a couple madly in love, are worlds apart from the boundaries of a couple in the middle of a long-term relationship, possibly at odds with each other's ideas of mid-life contentment. 

 

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Finding a compromise that makes both partners happy is ongoing if you are to make a permanent home together. This is no different to the exploratory stage of new love, nor is it exclusive to any relationship.

The outcome largely depends on how much you are prepared to give of yourself to make another human being happy whilst maintaining your own happiness.

It does not  mean you are responsible for their happiness, it simply means taking them into consideration in everyday decisions as well as dreams and life goals; as individuals and as a couple.

Just don't lose yourself in the process.

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Shine your light so bright

it illuminates your

authenticity

The above article is adapted from the memoir EN ROUTE: The Best Is Yet To Be and if it resonates with you, it can be pre-ordered here. The book is chock-full of wisdom from the experiences of young love through mid-life marriage following the same couple throughout their ups and downs.

If you're looking for a few ideas to infuse your relationship with more meaning, you'll find a variety of ideas at this link.

Have a great weekend everyone and go out there and do something special!

Location: Sydney NSW, Australia
Elora is a relationship writer with tips that empower you to build greater relationship success.

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