How Do Relationships Shape Us?

How Do They Shape Our Identity?


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I’ve been thinking long and hard about this question over the years. I mean, change is inevitable, but how much of that change is influenced by our partners?

How much of our core self remains untouched?

Do you know?

Are you the same person you were 10 years ago? 20 Years ago? No, of course you aren’t, because growth changes our perspective of everything.


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So how do you maintain the you whom you have crafted so hard to forge, while evolving with adaptations to reality? There are 6 questions below that will help you find the answer.

Examining your morals and ethics goes a long way to observing the person within that you want to portray to the world.

To help keep your identity intact within the framework of a relationship, I’ve created a fun, anonymous survey that’ll help you define your beliefs. No email required!


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It’s a blend of thoughtful, deep questions and fun, cheeky ones. Enjoy and if you have any feedback, I would love to know.

Here’s your survey: How Do Relationships Shape Us:


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There's a whole lot of different ways to develop the quality of your relationship. You'll find some great ideas here: Growing better together



Location: Sydney NSW, Australia
Elora is a relationship writer with tips that empower you to build greater relationship success.

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