Own Your Self-Worth!

Self Worth is Such an Underestimated Superpower

“I think it's important to have a great relationship with ourselves before we can expect a better relationship with our partner." Jude - Quantum Healing Connection

Welcome to our new mini-series:

Our Relationship with Ourselves

Photo by Drew Colins on Unsplash

"I determine my self-worth from now on!" This was me after a particularly tough disagreement with my husband of 35+ years. Disagreements happen. They're a fact of life, but when our self-worth is undermined we have to stand up for ourselves.

That was a pivotal moment in our relationship.

It truly gave me a Superpower I had never owned before. It helped me understand that I do not need to be small to fit someone else's ego; I do not need to keep quiet when I disagree - I found my self-worth Superpower that day and it helped both of us forge a healthier environment for our relationship.

Ali and Cameron Daddo speak of this concept in their 'Separate Bathrooms' podcast. The episode is titled Save our Marriage. It's worth a listen to help understand the growth and evolution required in any relationship if it is to sustain the rigors of everyday life. Save our Marriage

When we talk about our self-worth, it's not the vanity of looking at ourselves and admiring our outward appearance, it's about valuing our morals, ethics and opinion. It's about showing people how we will accept being treated and how we will NOT accept being treated.

Once you grasp the importance of your self-worth, then you can work on offering a relationship the essence of who you are.

When a partner undermines you, it is never about you.

It is never about what you can change.

It is always about their process of emotion.

Radical Self Love

When you are the one in your relationship dynamic having an emotional experience, it would serve you well to remember, too, that this is your experience to process and it does not reflect on your partners' issues. Read this article for just a small example of a minor blip in my equilibrium, which I managed to resolve with radical self love: Love Yourself First

In the first paragraph at the top of the page, we spoke about the value of self-worth as a Superpower from within. Now I understand that the paragraph above, Radical Self Love, speaks of external gratification as a form of self love; what I want to emphasize is the act of knowing our self-worth is valued enough to warrant self indulgence. We deserve self-care. Always. ALWAYS. 

In our younger years, we are so indoctrinated by society to fit, be flashy and keep up with the latest trends. I have an important pivot to share with you which will show you how to value your own trends without having to fit into the latest fad: Grow Your Self-Worth 

No growth happens overnight. It takes small steps for a very good reason. We can only deal with small amounts of deepening awareness at a time, so that we can process it and evolve accordingly.

Let me know in the comments if this resonated with you. It is such a deep topic with many layers to unravel; I'd love to hear your opinion.